YES – You Look Fat in Those Pants!

Learn How to Playfully Tease a Woman By Being Different, Confident, & Funny…

By: Ben Ezra

As you are reading this, about one million women all over the world are turning to their husbands or boyfriends, and asking them the million dollar question – the one that causes most men to hesitate before answering… And no, it's not, "Are you cheating on me?"

“Honey… Do these pants make me look fat?”

If this has never happened to you yet, let me prepare you, because it will! As much as you may want to avoid this question, it will eventually arise – there is no escape. But the question is: are you going to know how to properly deal with it when it comes along?

Well, before I get into how you should deal with a question of this sort, let me give you a couple of the most common answers that most men give:

- “Of course not honey… They make you look beautiful.”
- “Turn around… No sweetheart, they look great on you.”
- “No, it actually makes you look skinnier…”
- “What kind of stupid question is that?”
- “I don’t know… Don’t bother me.”
- “How am I supposed to know? Am I some fashion expert?”

I am not saying that there is anything wrong with any of the previous answers, but I am about to go against what every man out there thinks he should say to a woman when she asks this question… The next time a woman asks you, “Honey… Do these pants make me look fat?” You will pause for a second… Look her up and down (as if you are grading her), and then in an extremely serious tone say:

“Yes honey… You look extremely fat in those pants, I mean, when did you decide to stop taking care of yourself? This relationship is never going to work out fatty pants…”

And then, just before she is about to slap you… Walk up to her; gently spank her tush and say, “Actually, now that I have come to think of it, you would make a great J-LO – a sexier version.” If you say this in a teasingly fashion, and the woman who you are saying it to doesn't have a low self-esteem, isn’t actually really fat, and has a sense of humor, then chances are that the outcome will be positive.

It’s great to playfully tease women, and a question like this gives you the perfect opportunity to do so. She might end up playfully hitting you on the arm, while saying something like; “You’re bad!” to which you can reply, “That’s my name, don’t wear it out!”

Be different from every Joe Shmoe that tells women what they think they want to hear, and begin to be a bit unpredictable. This does not only keep things interesting, but it keeps things fun as well! It never hurts to tell a woman the opposite of what she wants to hear; as long as you say it in a teasingly and playful manner. This may very well work to your benefit.

Side effects may include: redness of the face from getting slapped, a broken nose from getting punched, or a more likely slap to the arm… Use at your own risk! ;-)

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What Women Want - From A Woman Herself

Enter A Woman's Mind By First Understanding Her Most Basic & Deepest Instinctual Desires...

By: Ben Ezra

Thousands of years ago; before there were fancy cars, the media, Paris Hilton, Bling-Bling, and any other kind of flashy image portrayed by society as being “attractive” and “desired” by others, there was something deeper – something less materialistic and physical…

Women wanted something that was rare, but it wasn’t any kind of diamond or tangible item. They desired certain feelings; deep feelings that could only come from the opposite sex – man.

There were certain elements that triggered true attraction for them, but they had nothing to do with how much money someone had, or how good they looked, or how old they were…

It was more along the lines of how they lived, who they were, why they did the things they did. What inspired them? What truly made them the men that they were?

As much as you may think, things haven’t changed much since then… Perhaps they simply became less clear and lost somewhere along the way. But women still want those deep feelings – they need them. And as for us men, we need not to overlook these most basic desires of a woman.

I have found a few short paragraphs written by a woman that very precisely dwells on this topic. No one can say it better than a woman herself.

Enjoy…

THE INVITATION

(by Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Indian Elder)

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living;
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are;
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon;
I want to know if you have touched the center of your sorrow,
if you have been opened by life's betrayals,
or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine and your own,
without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with JOY, mine or your own;
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your
fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful,
to be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true;
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul;
I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it is not pretty everyday,
and if you can source your life from its presence;
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours or mine,
and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"YES!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have;
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone,
and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn't interest me who you are, or how you came to be here;
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink
back.

It doesn't interest me where, or what, or with whom you have studied;
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away;
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself,
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

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You see…

At the end of it all, acting fake around women, pretending to be something your not, spending all this extra money on women so that you can “impress” them, buying that 2006 BMW 745Li so you can show off in style, doesn’t really matter… It’s not what women want (at least not quality women).

They want you to be a MAN. Someone who stays true to who he is, and will never try to put on fake airs or say something because he thinks, that’s the right thing to say…You have to be real.

I talk a lot about this in my book, and dig much deeper than the surface. If this makes sense to you, you might want to check out my book, Modern World Dating. Click here.

You got to smile and enjoy this journey called life, no matter what. Stay true to who you are, follow no one but you heart, always be willing to take a punch for what you believe is right, and be forever grateful for everything in your life!

If you will live this way…

I can guarantee that the women around you will notice.

Stuck On You - What Do I Do?

Ask Ben - Question & Answer of the Week

By: Ben Ezra

Hi Ben,

My name is Sammy. I have a problem… I had a relationship with a girl like a year ago, and I was with her for like 2 years. Every since we broke up, every time I go out with a girl, I don't see her as being perfect and I keep remembering and comparing her with my ex. My other problem is, I’m too nice to girls. I treat them the way I want them to be treating me and it always f**** me up. I need to learn how to talk to women, especially if I don't know the girl… I always don't know how to start a conversation with them, like if I see some girl in the mall; I have no idea how to start?

Ben's Answer

First of all Sammy,

I would just like you to know that these are some great question, and that you are definitely not alone in asking them! Many men around the world have the same challenges, and I know this because, aside from helping out dozens of men with similar issues, I personally had to deal with a lot of these challenges myself (a couple of years ago) before I learned how to deal with them…

So here is my take on the subject:

My Ex Got Me Whipped

We’ve all been there before Sammy; whether it was in pre-school, high school, or some later stage in life. We have all fell head over heels at some point in our life for a woman who just seemed like the most perfect thing in the world, and there was nothing anyone could ever do to change our minds. You may have seen her on the cover of some magazine, met her in a coffee shop one day, or even had a 2 year relationship with her once… But in the end, all that matters is this:

She got you whipped!

It’s no surprise that 60% (if not more) of songs ever written or produced in the history of the world all touched on this topic (Stuck On You by Lionel Richie, Always On My Mind by Elvis Presley, Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt, Still by Brian McKnight, This Is How You Remind Me by Nickelback… Just to name a few). No wonder these songs became such huge hits – People could relate to them!

Does that mean you simply have to raise your hands and give up, or even worse; write some “I want you back” love song? Of course not! You are going to have to move on. And yes, I know that it may be easier said than done, but let me tell you something that you should realize:

If a woman breaks up with a man, it usually takes her about 1-2 days to get over it and move on (unless the man broke up with her first). It may be hard for you to come to terms with this, but she probably doesn’t think about you that much anymore – at least not as much as you think of her. I’m not psychic, but I’m guessing that she didn’t have much of a problem to get over you and move on (she probably found a new boyfriend not too long after), so why should you?

Ahhh but yes! You still have FEELINGS for her… which also gives me the idea that you probably had “too much” feelings for her to begin with. Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have any feelings towards a woman, but you should always keep things under control. It sucks when a relationship that seems too good to be true ends in a break-up, but there is no use in crying over spilled milk Sammy… You got to move on!

And never compare new women you meet with your ex, because as much as you may have thought she was perfect, she wasn’t. No body is perfect, and if you will continue to compare all the future women you will meet to your “perfect” ex, you will only be setting yourself up for failure. Every woman is beautiful and fascinating in her own unique ways, so you can never compare.

Don’t live for yesterday or tomorrow… Live for now, and always enjoy yourself when you go out with new women. Before you know it, you’re going to find yourself a woman who is 100 times more perfect than any other woman you have ever met in your life – you just have to be open to it!

I’m Too Nice

So you have a slight case of “Nice Guy Syndrom”, don’t worry too much about it – it ain’t gonna kill you… But it will dramatically decrease your chances of being truly successful with women. So this might be something you should consider taking care of.

Way too many men run into the trap of treating women extra nice, thinking that they will treat them extra nice back… BIG MISTAKE! You can’t treat a woman the same way you want to be treated, because it simply doesn’t work that way!

When you hear a woman say that she wants to meet a “nice guy,” do not be confused! What she really means is: I want to meet a real man, who can also be considered a “nice guy” in certain ways…

The problem with acting extra nice to women is that, you are focusing too much energy on trying to seek their approval and build comfort. When you only focus on building comfort in a woman, and fail to build a certain level of attraction, the chances are that you are going to end up in the “friends zone” (if you even get that far).

You have to not only focus on building comfort with a woman, but you must build her attraction level towards you as well – simultaneously. There is a lot you should know on this topic, so if you are really serious about improving your success, check out my book, Modern World Dating.

All in all, don’t do things for women because you think you have to, and always have a backbone! It’s OK to say NO once in a while… Women want MEN, not little overly-polite “nice guys.”

Pick Up Lines

I go into great detail on how to approach women in my book, and what you should say to them, but let me just give you something you can use in the mean time…

If you see an attractive woman in a mall, simply walk up to her and say something like, “I Couldn’t help but notice you, and I just wanted to see what you were like… I hope you don’t turn out to be some crazy psycho woman” (dead-on eye contact with a questioning smile). If said with confidence and some self assurance, the woman should be smiling and open to some further conversation (make it quick), and then get her number…

If everything I talked about seems like a lot to take in, don’t worry about it… Just take it step-by-step, and don’t be scared to fail a few times along they way. You can learn much more from mistakes than you can from successes… So just get out there and start making things happen! Don’t take yourself too seriously, and make sure to have fun in the process!

Good Luck!

If these things really made sense to you, and you would like to learn ALL the secrets you will ever need to know about women, you can click here to get more information.

She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not…

How to tell if a woman is interested in you by following 3 easy steps…

By: Ben Ezra

The famous and well-known saying, “he loves me, he loves me not” has somehow evolved overtime to the much more prominent, and rapidly growing saying, “she loves me, she loves me not.” Why is this you ask? Well, it seems to me that over the years, men have become just as clueless as women on this topic, although it is very easy for a woman to read if a man fancy’s her in this day and age (at least most of the time)… I guess you can say the tables have turned!

These days, it’s extremely easy for most women to tell if a guy is interested in them, and trust me… You don’t have to go as far as verbally telling her! Women naturally pick up on these kinds of things – I guess you can call it a 6th sense.

But here is where the problem lies…

It has become way too EASY! There is absolutely no challenge for them anymore, no excitement… You guy’s mind as well walk around with a post-it note stuck to the top of your forehead, that has the full name of the woman you are interested in, and write something like, “I really really like you and want you, please have sex with me now” and you would probably be communicating the exact same thing!

You have probably heard it before, but let me refresh your memory: WOMEN LOVE A CHALLENGE! They don’t want men to be extremely easy, and they don’t want to always be able to read you, because that’s just plain old boring! But this is an entirely different topic in itself… So let’s stay on track here.

The BIG problem though is this: 95% of men can’t tell if, or when, a woman is interested in them. If there is any one thing that most men REALLY suck at, it’s this! It’s all Greek to them. I mean, most men are so blinded to this that, a woman can literally be giving them the most seductive “I want you look”, and the guy would be thinking to himself… “Gosh! She’s so god damn beautiful – I wish she was interested in me.”

WAKE UP BUDDY!

Some men simply never get the hint… Even if it hits them in the face! Well, I’m going to make sure that you don’t end up like one of those men. If a woman is “checking you out” you deserve to know about it!

There’s this girl you like but you can’t seem to pin down if she’s interested in you, so what do you do? How can you find out if she is interested in you without directly having to as her (like most losers do)? What are some give-away signals you should stay on the look out for?

Awesome! I thought you would never ask…

Body Language

The first and foremost give-away signal is her body language. How does she stand when she is around you? Is her body in an open and relaxed state, or does she constantly cross her arms while talking to you? Where are her eyes looking? Do her pupils dilate when she speaks to you? All these things are signs you should constantly be able to spot at any given moment in time!

A woman who is interested in you will usually lean towards you during conversation instead of away; they will move in close. They will make direct-eye contact with you occasionally, and then possibly give you that little “come approach me” or “I like you” smile… They will constantly be spotted around you. When speaking to her, her eyes will dilate (this means she is interested in what you are saying, possibly intrigued). If she is constantly fidgeting around you, this might mean she is uncomfortable, or possibly nervous…

You have to constantly stay on the look out for these kinds of things! A great book you might want to consider checking out on this topic is called, The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan and Barbara Pease. There are a lot of useful tips in there! To purchase this book click here.

Occasional Touching

The second best way to gauge a woman’s interest level towards you is by staying on the look out for occasional touching. Yep, as obvious as this may sound, you may be surprised to know how so many men overlook this gesture, by simply thinking something like, “so what if she touches me, she touches her little brother too, that doesn’t mean she wants to sleep with him…” (Which I also hope is true)

Well, your right! But it all depends on when, where and how she touches you… This is where a lot of men get mixed up. There is a difference between a, “I think you’re a cool friend pat on the back” and a “you are making me so hot right now, take me to bed” tight grip of your shoulder. Sometimes it’s obvious and sometimes, not so much, so that is why you got to really pay attention! You may also take the initiative yourself and simply begin massaging her hand while speaking to her… If she is ok with this, and she seems to be enjoying it very much (maybe even blushing) then you know she at least has some level of interest. If she didn’t she would probably be very uncomfortable, and it would show.

This would be a good time to also read her body language, like the pace at which she moves, or where her eyes are positioned… The next time a woman touches your arm while having a conversation with you, let that trigger your radar. That little signal just might end up meaning… (I’ll leave the rest to your imagination).

Asking Qualifying Questions

So now you know the two main ways of finding out if a woman might be interested in you, but were not finished yet. There is still one very effective technique you may use to your benefit while trying to correctly gauge a woman’s interest level towards you. It’s as simple as asking a question (literally). But, it obviously can’t be any out of the blue question like, “do you prefer the color pink over black?” or a very straight up question like, “so, do you find me interesting?” that would just be dumb!

You have to ask qualifying questions by saying something like, “I really like it when a woman isn’t scared of taking a few risks here and there… It shows a lot of character… Do you take risks?” A question of this sort immediately puts the woman in a position where she is going to most likely want to say yes, if she is interested in you that is… If not, she will probably say something like, “not really” or simply a flat out, “no.”

Like with anything, it is impossible to say that you will correctly interpret everything a woman ever says or does by following these steps, but I can definitely guarantee you that, if you currently have trouble finding out if a woman is interested in you, then these three simple steps and techniques will save you a lot of time and future frustration! The next time a woman is “checking you out” you will be more than ready to proceed accordingly.

You can find out a lot more in-depth information on this topic from my Modern World Dating System specifically designed to answer all of your dating questions – Plus a lot more!

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Get Her Phone Number in Less Than 5 Minutes...

How to walk into any bar or club and get an attractive woman's phone number in less than 5 minutes...

By: Ben Ezra

It's a Saturday night, and your out with your buddies at some extremely "happening" nightclub downtown. The women there are drop-dead gorgeous, and if it wasn't for those couple shots of tequila you very confidently chugged down earlier, the thought of approaching one of these "goddess like" women would have probably never crossed your mind...

But thanks to good old alcohol, what seemed impossible before, now seems as easy as stealing candy from a baby - there is hope! But what do you do now? You have finally worked up the courage to even think of approaching this goddess of a woman, but how are you going to pull it off without looking like a complete drunken idiot who just chugged down about 8 shots of tequila?

Well... You pretty much have three choices: One, you either walk up to her, make a fool of yourself, and get brutally rejected. Two, you can decide to simply do nothing and continue chugging down on the alcohol until you pass out and fall asleep on some couch next to coat-check. Or... Three, you can get a hold of yourself and the situation, confidently get her attention, introduce yourself, and walk away with her phone number a couple of minutes later (unless you decide to take her home)...

If you have two testicles and like the thought of getting attractive women's phone numbers, then I am pretty confident that you would prefer to go with choice number three. If not, then you probably shouldn't be reading this...

So...

I would say that there are many ways in which you could approach a situation of this sort in a successful manner, all you would need is some confidence and creativity!

The "Attention" Catcher

If you want to truly stand out from the crowd you must learn to be different in an interesting way. There are two main ways in which you can get the attention of an attractive woman at a bar; "The Direct Approach" or "The Creative Approach". I personally enjoy using the "Creative Approach" in most situations, although the "Direct Approach" can work wonders if used at the precise moment.

By "The Direct Approach" I mean; locking eye contact with someone you find attractive and walking straight towards them without any hesitation and simply saying something like, “Hi! I couldn’t help but notice you from across the room and I just wanted to see what you are like..." Keep in mind; this might turn a woman off if used in the wrong manner or time.

By “The Creative Approach” I mean; being able to naturally set up a scenario where everything simply seems to fall into place, almost as if it was meant to be (although in reality it was planned). It may involve anything from asking an opinion on a certain topic, to designing a situation that will cause them to approach you… it simply takes some thought. Watch Cary Grant in the 1955 hit movie "To Catch A Thief" and notice how he gets the attention of the woman he was after by simply using creativity!

Try to stay away from using the common “approach” of over-complimenting and begin to stand out of the crowd! If you do this, you shall become a topic of interest among those you plan on attracting.

Simply charm her for a bit, make her laugh, and then say "You know what, you seem like a really great person, but I have to go now. We should continue this conversation another time... What's your number?"

...And Bada-Bing-Bada-Boom! Instead of passing out and going home empty handed, you can now leave the club with a drop-dead gorgeous woman's phone number. And who knows... You might even get a few more numbers on your way out.

Don't be the guy that sees an attractive woman, and just stands there looking at a wall... Make your move, and there will be a very good chance that you will walk away successful. As long as you use a bit of creativity and confidence!

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