Dating Tips For Men INTRO Video
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
Here is a little video I recently posted on my website, www.DatingTipsForMen.com. Make sure to check it out, and read the letter below the video, on my website!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=svkqnyCskzA
Wednesday
Thursday
Dating Tips For Men Free Audio Preview - Secrets Revealed
The MWD Model - A Sneak Peak
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
Hey guys, I just recently put together a little audio sample from a small part my book, "Modern World Dating: How to Meet & Date Women" and wanted to share it with all of you! I briefly go over a few of the key topics from the third section of my book, entitled "Getting Down to Business". In this section of the book, I cover all the specifics... Everything from approaching a woman, all the way to getting her into bed.
There is a lot of great advice in these 2 clips, so make sure you watch them both!
PART 1
If you are having trouble seeing the clip, watch it here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DrIgvnJ0bEs :
PART 2
If you are having trouble seeing the clip, watch it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWgw5Em7-ak
There you go! I know that a lot of what I was saying probably didn't make too much sense to you right away, and that is OK. I go into MUCH MORE detail in the actual book, and explain how to actually build the perfect amount of attraction and comfort, step-by-step... Phase-by-phase...
I dedicate a section for each part of the MWD Model in my book, so you will never have to play the guessing game on what you should do, or how you should do it anymore... There is a real and proven science behind my MWD Model, and I am ready to teach it to you! So go ahead and visit www.DatingTipsForMen.com right now to order your copy, and begin your journey to becoming amazing with women!
Hope you enjoyed the information. Stay updated as I will be posting many new live videos of me giving more free advice soon!
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
Hey guys, I just recently put together a little audio sample from a small part my book, "Modern World Dating: How to Meet & Date Women" and wanted to share it with all of you! I briefly go over a few of the key topics from the third section of my book, entitled "Getting Down to Business". In this section of the book, I cover all the specifics... Everything from approaching a woman, all the way to getting her into bed.
There is a lot of great advice in these 2 clips, so make sure you watch them both!
PART 1
If you are having trouble seeing the clip, watch it here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DrIgvnJ0bEs :
PART 2
If you are having trouble seeing the clip, watch it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWgw5Em7-ak
There you go! I know that a lot of what I was saying probably didn't make too much sense to you right away, and that is OK. I go into MUCH MORE detail in the actual book, and explain how to actually build the perfect amount of attraction and comfort, step-by-step... Phase-by-phase...
I dedicate a section for each part of the MWD Model in my book, so you will never have to play the guessing game on what you should do, or how you should do it anymore... There is a real and proven science behind my MWD Model, and I am ready to teach it to you! So go ahead and visit www.DatingTipsForMen.com right now to order your copy, and begin your journey to becoming amazing with women!
Hope you enjoyed the information. Stay updated as I will be posting many new live videos of me giving more free advice soon!
Friday
Sick Kids Bell Gala Celebrity Charity Event
2009 Bell Gala
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
Last night I was part of a very special event. Celebrities, amongst many other attendees, were there to show their support for the all too important Sick Kids Charity Foundation.
A great night, with great performances by Artists such as Our Lady Peace, Natasha Bedingfield, and many more! Over 2000 people came out to show their support, and I would like to do my part by donating all profits from books sold within the next month to the Sick Kids Charity Foundation.
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
Last night I was part of a very special event. Celebrities, amongst many other attendees, were there to show their support for the all too important Sick Kids Charity Foundation.
George Stroumboulopoulos - Host of CBC's The Hour
A great night, with great performances by Artists such as Our Lady Peace, Natasha Bedingfield, and many more! Over 2000 people came out to show their support, and I would like to do my part by donating all profits from books sold within the next month to the Sick Kids Charity Foundation.
Jerome Williams - Former NBA Star
Mariana Valente - Miss Universe Canada
Edge - WWE Superstar
To order a book, visit www.DatingTipsForMen.com
If you would simply like to make a donation to the Sick Kids Foundation, and help make a difference in a child's life, visit www.SickKidsFoundation.com/donate/ to make a donation!
Best Places To Take Your Date
Where Should You Take Her?
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
So you met this babe a few days back, got her number, and you now want to take her out on a memorable date. The question is, where? Well, you can go ahead and do the usual dinner and a movie thing, but why in the world would you want to do something as predictable and boring as that! Trust me on that one. The dinner and movie thing is way over done, gentlemen. Don’t take them to the same common and boring places as most men. Instead, stand out by being different and creative, and take them somewhere fun, interesting, and exhilarating. Yes, exhilarating! The key is to get all their senses involved and create a short, but sweet, unforgettable experience that was well orchestrated by you.
If you heed the following guidelines, you will be more prepared than 95% of the men out there, and be able to plan an unforgettable date at the snap of a finger. Nothing turns her on more than a man with a plan. A few simple and inexpensive date ideas coming right up!
The Outdoors
If the weather is right, nothing beats the outdoors for creative date ideas that don’t cost a dime. Take her to a nice nature filled park with a lake or beach and simply go for a walk. Find a comfortable place, sit down, relax, and get to know her. Engage in some interesting and stimulating conversation. You could also head out to a free outdoor concert or local festival if you’d like. The zoo is also cool and fun place to take a woman, as long as you don’t mind spending a few bucks on the entrance fee. Whatever you choose to do, know that most women will appreciate some good old outdoors fun much more than a dinner and movie!
Jazz/Piano Bar
If you have that classy, mysterious, James Bondish kind of thing going for you, then this is the kind of place you want to take your women. And while you’re at it, go ahead and order a Vodka Martini. Shaken, Not Stirred. These kinds of places tend to have a great atmosphere, and the music is just right. Not too soft, and not too loud - great ambience for some intimate conversation.
Play A Game
The best foreground to teasing and flirting is by challenging your date to a game that you are awesome at (but don’t tell her how good you are). If you’re really great at art, take her painting, and turn it into a little painting contest. If you enjoy bowling, do that. Catch my drift? You can go shoot pool, play a game of miniature golf, challenge her to one-on-one basketball, and so on. Whatever you choose to challenge her at, make sure you make the process as fun as possible, and win of course. That will leave you with some great teasing/flirting ammunition for later.
Grab A Bite
Getting the taste buds involved during a date is never a bad idea. But, you don’t want to over do it, by spending $400.00 on an extra fancy bottle of wine and steak dinner. Unless you can really afford to, but even then, you are probably better off sticking to something a bit simpler. Find a place that not everyone knows about, perhaps next to a beach or lakeshore for a complimenting post dinner stroll. A little shared chocolaty dessert or ice cream can never hurt as well.
Local Art Gallery
If you have a taste for art, or you just feel like doing something different for a change, check out a local art gallery with your date. It’s actually very interesting and most importantly, different! This will give you and your date the perfect opportunity to chitchat and share thoughts. Each piece of art will be a new conversational topic. Afternoon or evening, the Art Gallery is a great place to take your date.
Mix & Match
Now that you have a pretty good idea of where to take her, we recommend switching it up every now and then to keep things fresh and interesting. You can even take her to all, or just a few of the places mentioned above in the same night. Like mini dates within a date. The more interesting things you do together, the more likely you are to connect. One thing is for sure though – it will be a very memorable night for her! (And the chances of getting “lucky” at the end of the date will increase ten fold). Click here for more dating tips!
By: Ben Ezra
Dating Coach
So you met this babe a few days back, got her number, and you now want to take her out on a memorable date. The question is, where? Well, you can go ahead and do the usual dinner and a movie thing, but why in the world would you want to do something as predictable and boring as that! Trust me on that one. The dinner and movie thing is way over done, gentlemen. Don’t take them to the same common and boring places as most men. Instead, stand out by being different and creative, and take them somewhere fun, interesting, and exhilarating. Yes, exhilarating! The key is to get all their senses involved and create a short, but sweet, unforgettable experience that was well orchestrated by you.
If you heed the following guidelines, you will be more prepared than 95% of the men out there, and be able to plan an unforgettable date at the snap of a finger. Nothing turns her on more than a man with a plan. A few simple and inexpensive date ideas coming right up!
The Outdoors
If the weather is right, nothing beats the outdoors for creative date ideas that don’t cost a dime. Take her to a nice nature filled park with a lake or beach and simply go for a walk. Find a comfortable place, sit down, relax, and get to know her. Engage in some interesting and stimulating conversation. You could also head out to a free outdoor concert or local festival if you’d like. The zoo is also cool and fun place to take a woman, as long as you don’t mind spending a few bucks on the entrance fee. Whatever you choose to do, know that most women will appreciate some good old outdoors fun much more than a dinner and movie!
Jazz/Piano Bar
If you have that classy, mysterious, James Bondish kind of thing going for you, then this is the kind of place you want to take your women. And while you’re at it, go ahead and order a Vodka Martini. Shaken, Not Stirred. These kinds of places tend to have a great atmosphere, and the music is just right. Not too soft, and not too loud - great ambience for some intimate conversation.
Play A Game
The best foreground to teasing and flirting is by challenging your date to a game that you are awesome at (but don’t tell her how good you are). If you’re really great at art, take her painting, and turn it into a little painting contest. If you enjoy bowling, do that. Catch my drift? You can go shoot pool, play a game of miniature golf, challenge her to one-on-one basketball, and so on. Whatever you choose to challenge her at, make sure you make the process as fun as possible, and win of course. That will leave you with some great teasing/flirting ammunition for later.
Grab A Bite
Getting the taste buds involved during a date is never a bad idea. But, you don’t want to over do it, by spending $400.00 on an extra fancy bottle of wine and steak dinner. Unless you can really afford to, but even then, you are probably better off sticking to something a bit simpler. Find a place that not everyone knows about, perhaps next to a beach or lakeshore for a complimenting post dinner stroll. A little shared chocolaty dessert or ice cream can never hurt as well.
Local Art Gallery
If you have a taste for art, or you just feel like doing something different for a change, check out a local art gallery with your date. It’s actually very interesting and most importantly, different! This will give you and your date the perfect opportunity to chitchat and share thoughts. Each piece of art will be a new conversational topic. Afternoon or evening, the Art Gallery is a great place to take your date.
Mix & Match
Now that you have a pretty good idea of where to take her, we recommend switching it up every now and then to keep things fresh and interesting. You can even take her to all, or just a few of the places mentioned above in the same night. Like mini dates within a date. The more interesting things you do together, the more likely you are to connect. One thing is for sure though – it will be a very memorable night for her! (And the chances of getting “lucky” at the end of the date will increase ten fold). Click here for more dating tips!
Wednesday
YES – You Look Fat in Those Pants!
Learn How to Playfully Tease a Woman By Being Different, Confident, & Funny…
By: Ben Ezra
By: Ben Ezra
As you are reading this, about one million women all over the world are turning to their husbands or boyfriends, and asking them the million dollar question – the one that causes most men to hesitate before answering… And no, it's not, "Are you cheating on me?"
“Honey… Do these pants make me look fat?”
If this has never happened to you yet, let me prepare you, because it will! As much as you may want to avoid this question, it will eventually arise – there is no escape. But the question is: are you going to know how to properly deal with it when it comes along?
Well, before I get into how you should deal with a question of this sort, let me give you a couple of the most common answers that most men give:
- “Of course not honey… They make you look beautiful.”
- “Turn around… No sweetheart, they look great on you.”
- “No, it actually makes you look skinnier…”
- “What kind of stupid question is that?”
- “I don’t know… Don’t bother me.”
- “How am I supposed to know? Am I some fashion expert?”
I am not saying that there is anything wrong with any of the previous answers, but I am about to go against what every man out there thinks he should say to a woman when she asks this question… The next time a woman asks you, “Honey… Do these pants make me look fat?” You will pause for a second… Look her up and down (as if you are grading her), and then in an extremely serious tone say:
“Yes honey… You look extremely fat in those pants, I mean, when did you decide to stop taking care of yourself? This relationship is never going to work out fatty pants…”
And then, just before she is about to slap you… Walk up to her; gently spank her tush and say, “Actually, now that I have come to think of it, you would make a great J-LO – a sexier version.” If you say this in a teasingly fashion, and the woman who you are saying it to doesn't have a low self-esteem, isn’t actually really fat, and has a sense of humor, then chances are that the outcome will be positive.
It’s great to playfully tease women, and a question like this gives you the perfect opportunity to do so. She might end up playfully hitting you on the arm, while saying something like; “You’re bad!” to which you can reply, “That’s my name, don’t wear it out!”
Be different from every Joe Shmoe that tells women what they think they want to hear, and begin to be a bit unpredictable. This does not only keep things interesting, but it keeps things fun as well! It never hurts to tell a woman the opposite of what she wants to hear; as long as you say it in a teasingly and playful manner. This may very well work to your benefit.
Side effects may include: redness of the face from getting slapped, a broken nose from getting punched, or a more likely slap to the arm… Use at your own risk! ;-)
For more on being different, confident, & funny, click here.
Saturday
What Women Want - From A Woman Herself
Enter A Woman's Mind By First Understanding Her Most Basic & Deepest Instinctual Desires...
By: Ben Ezra
Thousands of years ago; before there were fancy cars, the media, Paris Hilton, Bling-Bling, and any other kind of flashy image portrayed by society as being “attractive” and “desired” by others, there was something deeper – something less materialistic and physical…
Women wanted something that was rare, but it wasn’t any kind of diamond or tangible item. They desired certain feelings; deep feelings that could only come from the opposite sex – man.
There were certain elements that triggered true attraction for them, but they had nothing to do with how much money someone had, or how good they looked, or how old they were…
It was more along the lines of how they lived, who they were, why they did the things they did. What inspired them? What truly made them the men that they were?
As much as you may think, things haven’t changed much since then… Perhaps they simply became less clear and lost somewhere along the way. But women still want those deep feelings – they need them. And as for us men, we need not to overlook these most basic desires of a woman.
I have found a few short paragraphs written by a woman that very precisely dwells on this topic. No one can say it better than a woman herself.
Enjoy…
THE INVITATION
(by Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Indian Elder)
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living;
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are;
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon;
I want to know if you have touched the center of your sorrow,
if you have been opened by life's betrayals,
or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine and your own,
without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with JOY, mine or your own;
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your
fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful,
to be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true;
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul;
I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it is not pretty everyday,
and if you can source your life from its presence;
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours or mine,
and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"YES!"
It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have;
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone,
and do what needs to be done for the children.
It doesn't interest me who you are, or how you came to be here;
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink
back.
It doesn't interest me where, or what, or with whom you have studied;
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away;
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself,
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
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You see…
At the end of it all, acting fake around women, pretending to be something your not, spending all this extra money on women so that you can “impress” them, buying that 2006 BMW 745Li so you can show off in style, doesn’t really matter… It’s not what women want (at least not quality women).
They want you to be a MAN. Someone who stays true to who he is, and will never try to put on fake airs or say something because he thinks, that’s the right thing to say…You have to be real.
I talk a lot about this in my book, and dig much deeper than the surface. If this makes sense to you, you might want to check out my book, Modern World Dating. Click here.
You got to smile and enjoy this journey called life, no matter what. Stay true to who you are, follow no one but you heart, always be willing to take a punch for what you believe is right, and be forever grateful for everything in your life!
If you will live this way…
I can guarantee that the women around you will notice.
At the end of it all, acting fake around women, pretending to be something your not, spending all this extra money on women so that you can “impress” them, buying that 2006 BMW 745Li so you can show off in style, doesn’t really matter… It’s not what women want (at least not quality women).
They want you to be a MAN. Someone who stays true to who he is, and will never try to put on fake airs or say something because he thinks, that’s the right thing to say…You have to be real.
I talk a lot about this in my book, and dig much deeper than the surface. If this makes sense to you, you might want to check out my book, Modern World Dating. Click here.
You got to smile and enjoy this journey called life, no matter what. Stay true to who you are, follow no one but you heart, always be willing to take a punch for what you believe is right, and be forever grateful for everything in your life!
If you will live this way…
I can guarantee that the women around you will notice.
Thursday
Stuck On You - What Do I Do?
Ask Ben - Question & Answer of the Week
By: Ben Ezra
Hi Ben,
My name is Sammy. I have a problem… I had a relationship with a girl like a year ago, and I was with her for like 2 years. Every since we broke up, every time I go out with a girl, I don't see her as being perfect and I keep remembering and comparing her with my ex. My other problem is, I’m too nice to girls. I treat them the way I want them to be treating me and it always f**** me up. I need to learn how to talk to women, especially if I don't know the girl… I always don't know how to start a conversation with them, like if I see some girl in the mall; I have no idea how to start?
Ben's Answer
First of all Sammy,
I would just like you to know that these are some great question, and that you are definitely not alone in asking them! Many men around the world have the same challenges, and I know this because, aside from helping out dozens of men with similar issues, I personally had to deal with a lot of these challenges myself (a couple of years ago) before I learned how to deal with them…
So here is my take on the subject:
My Ex Got Me Whipped
We’ve all been there before Sammy; whether it was in pre-school, high school, or some later stage in life. We have all fell head over heels at some point in our life for a woman who just seemed like the most perfect thing in the world, and there was nothing anyone could ever do to change our minds. You may have seen her on the cover of some magazine, met her in a coffee shop one day, or even had a 2 year relationship with her once… But in the end, all that matters is this:
She got you whipped!
It’s no surprise that 60% (if not more) of songs ever written or produced in the history of the world all touched on this topic (Stuck On You by Lionel Richie, Always On My Mind by Elvis Presley, Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt, Still by Brian McKnight, This Is How You Remind Me by Nickelback… Just to name a few). No wonder these songs became such huge hits – People could relate to them!
Does that mean you simply have to raise your hands and give up, or even worse; write some “I want you back” love song? Of course not! You are going to have to move on. And yes, I know that it may be easier said than done, but let me tell you something that you should realize:
If a woman breaks up with a man, it usually takes her about 1-2 days to get over it and move on (unless the man broke up with her first). It may be hard for you to come to terms with this, but she probably doesn’t think about you that much anymore – at least not as much as you think of her. I’m not psychic, but I’m guessing that she didn’t have much of a problem to get over you and move on (she probably found a new boyfriend not too long after), so why should you?
Ahhh but yes! You still have FEELINGS for her… which also gives me the idea that you probably had “too much” feelings for her to begin with. Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have any feelings towards a woman, but you should always keep things under control. It sucks when a relationship that seems too good to be true ends in a break-up, but there is no use in crying over spilled milk Sammy… You got to move on!
And never compare new women you meet with your ex, because as much as you may have thought she was perfect, she wasn’t. No body is perfect, and if you will continue to compare all the future women you will meet to your “perfect” ex, you will only be setting yourself up for failure. Every woman is beautiful and fascinating in her own unique ways, so you can never compare.
Don’t live for yesterday or tomorrow… Live for now, and always enjoy yourself when you go out with new women. Before you know it, you’re going to find yourself a woman who is 100 times more perfect than any other woman you have ever met in your life – you just have to be open to it!
I’m Too Nice
So you have a slight case of “Nice Guy Syndrom”, don’t worry too much about it – it ain’t gonna kill you… But it will dramatically decrease your chances of being truly successful with women. So this might be something you should consider taking care of.
Way too many men run into the trap of treating women extra nice, thinking that they will treat them extra nice back… BIG MISTAKE! You can’t treat a woman the same way you want to be treated, because it simply doesn’t work that way!
When you hear a woman say that she wants to meet a “nice guy,” do not be confused! What she really means is: I want to meet a real man, who can also be considered a “nice guy” in certain ways…
The problem with acting extra nice to women is that, you are focusing too much energy on trying to seek their approval and build comfort. When you only focus on building comfort in a woman, and fail to build a certain level of attraction, the chances are that you are going to end up in the “friends zone” (if you even get that far).
You have to not only focus on building comfort with a woman, but you must build her attraction level towards you as well – simultaneously. There is a lot you should know on this topic, so if you are really serious about improving your success, check out my book, Modern World Dating.
All in all, don’t do things for women because you think you have to, and always have a backbone! It’s OK to say NO once in a while… Women want MEN, not little overly-polite “nice guys.”
Pick Up Lines
I go into great detail on how to approach women in my book, and what you should say to them, but let me just give you something you can use in the mean time…
If you see an attractive woman in a mall, simply walk up to her and say something like, “I Couldn’t help but notice you, and I just wanted to see what you were like… I hope you don’t turn out to be some crazy psycho woman” (dead-on eye contact with a questioning smile). If said with confidence and some self assurance, the woman should be smiling and open to some further conversation (make it quick), and then get her number…
If everything I talked about seems like a lot to take in, don’t worry about it… Just take it step-by-step, and don’t be scared to fail a few times along they way. You can learn much more from mistakes than you can from successes… So just get out there and start making things happen! Don’t take yourself too seriously, and make sure to have fun in the process!
Good Luck!
If these things really made sense to you, and you would like to learn ALL the secrets you will ever need to know about women, you can click here to get more information.
By: Ben Ezra
Hi Ben,
My name is Sammy. I have a problem… I had a relationship with a girl like a year ago, and I was with her for like 2 years. Every since we broke up, every time I go out with a girl, I don't see her as being perfect and I keep remembering and comparing her with my ex. My other problem is, I’m too nice to girls. I treat them the way I want them to be treating me and it always f**** me up. I need to learn how to talk to women, especially if I don't know the girl… I always don't know how to start a conversation with them, like if I see some girl in the mall; I have no idea how to start?
Ben's Answer
First of all Sammy,
I would just like you to know that these are some great question, and that you are definitely not alone in asking them! Many men around the world have the same challenges, and I know this because, aside from helping out dozens of men with similar issues, I personally had to deal with a lot of these challenges myself (a couple of years ago) before I learned how to deal with them…
So here is my take on the subject:
My Ex Got Me Whipped
We’ve all been there before Sammy; whether it was in pre-school, high school, or some later stage in life. We have all fell head over heels at some point in our life for a woman who just seemed like the most perfect thing in the world, and there was nothing anyone could ever do to change our minds. You may have seen her on the cover of some magazine, met her in a coffee shop one day, or even had a 2 year relationship with her once… But in the end, all that matters is this:
She got you whipped!
It’s no surprise that 60% (if not more) of songs ever written or produced in the history of the world all touched on this topic (Stuck On You by Lionel Richie, Always On My Mind by Elvis Presley, Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt, Still by Brian McKnight, This Is How You Remind Me by Nickelback… Just to name a few). No wonder these songs became such huge hits – People could relate to them!
Does that mean you simply have to raise your hands and give up, or even worse; write some “I want you back” love song? Of course not! You are going to have to move on. And yes, I know that it may be easier said than done, but let me tell you something that you should realize:
If a woman breaks up with a man, it usually takes her about 1-2 days to get over it and move on (unless the man broke up with her first). It may be hard for you to come to terms with this, but she probably doesn’t think about you that much anymore – at least not as much as you think of her. I’m not psychic, but I’m guessing that she didn’t have much of a problem to get over you and move on (she probably found a new boyfriend not too long after), so why should you?
Ahhh but yes! You still have FEELINGS for her… which also gives me the idea that you probably had “too much” feelings for her to begin with. Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have any feelings towards a woman, but you should always keep things under control. It sucks when a relationship that seems too good to be true ends in a break-up, but there is no use in crying over spilled milk Sammy… You got to move on!
And never compare new women you meet with your ex, because as much as you may have thought she was perfect, she wasn’t. No body is perfect, and if you will continue to compare all the future women you will meet to your “perfect” ex, you will only be setting yourself up for failure. Every woman is beautiful and fascinating in her own unique ways, so you can never compare.
Don’t live for yesterday or tomorrow… Live for now, and always enjoy yourself when you go out with new women. Before you know it, you’re going to find yourself a woman who is 100 times more perfect than any other woman you have ever met in your life – you just have to be open to it!
I’m Too Nice
So you have a slight case of “Nice Guy Syndrom”, don’t worry too much about it – it ain’t gonna kill you… But it will dramatically decrease your chances of being truly successful with women. So this might be something you should consider taking care of.
Way too many men run into the trap of treating women extra nice, thinking that they will treat them extra nice back… BIG MISTAKE! You can’t treat a woman the same way you want to be treated, because it simply doesn’t work that way!
When you hear a woman say that she wants to meet a “nice guy,” do not be confused! What she really means is: I want to meet a real man, who can also be considered a “nice guy” in certain ways…
The problem with acting extra nice to women is that, you are focusing too much energy on trying to seek their approval and build comfort. When you only focus on building comfort in a woman, and fail to build a certain level of attraction, the chances are that you are going to end up in the “friends zone” (if you even get that far).
You have to not only focus on building comfort with a woman, but you must build her attraction level towards you as well – simultaneously. There is a lot you should know on this topic, so if you are really serious about improving your success, check out my book, Modern World Dating.
All in all, don’t do things for women because you think you have to, and always have a backbone! It’s OK to say NO once in a while… Women want MEN, not little overly-polite “nice guys.”
Pick Up Lines
I go into great detail on how to approach women in my book, and what you should say to them, but let me just give you something you can use in the mean time…
If you see an attractive woman in a mall, simply walk up to her and say something like, “I Couldn’t help but notice you, and I just wanted to see what you were like… I hope you don’t turn out to be some crazy psycho woman” (dead-on eye contact with a questioning smile). If said with confidence and some self assurance, the woman should be smiling and open to some further conversation (make it quick), and then get her number…
If everything I talked about seems like a lot to take in, don’t worry about it… Just take it step-by-step, and don’t be scared to fail a few times along they way. You can learn much more from mistakes than you can from successes… So just get out there and start making things happen! Don’t take yourself too seriously, and make sure to have fun in the process!
Good Luck!
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